With all of the buzz of International Women’s Day and seeing females being celebrated all across the globe, it got me thinking about lessons that I have learned over the years about what it means to be a woman, how we value our worth and how we allow ourselves to be defined by others.
The act of continuous growth and unlearning concepts that we’ve been taught all of our lives might be one of the most difficult processes, yet most rewarding, that we will ever have to go through.
Over the past years I’ve spent most of my time working with, getting to know, interviewing, connecting with and being inspired by phenomenal women. I’ve also spent a lot of time truly getting to know who I am as a woman and what that really means to me.
We are all moving through our own journeys and I wanted to take time to share some important lessons of womanhood that I’ve learned over the years.
Sensitivity Should Be Embraced
Sensitivity is one of the most difficult complex topics that I have had to deal with over time because I’ve always been dubbed “ too sensitive” or “too emotional” all of my life. And you know what, I am. But I’ve come to learn that it’s not something to be ashamed of, in fact, it’s one of my most redeeming qualities.
Growing up, I always had to hide how sensitive I was or guard my emotions but over the years a certain shift happened. I began to realize that this trait wasn’t something that needed to be regarded as negative but instead it was the one thing that allows me to connect so well with others.
As women, we’re told that we are too emotional or over-reactive, so we censor ourselves to play it cool or pretend like we don’t care when the truth is, all that leads to is being eaten up inside. When you start to realize the beauty of sensitivity and you learn to be honest with others about your thoughts and feelings, then that is when you can truly start to feel free and open about who you really are.
Be honest with yourself and the people in your life. Embrace your sensitivity and realize that it is a gift to be shared. Those who are meant to stay in your life will understand but don’t you dare change who you are for anyone.
Your Beauty Comes From Self-Worth
As cliché as it sounds, your personality is what shines through over everything else. So often, we get caught up in what we look like or how perfect we think we need to be that we don’t do the necessary inner work to make sure that we are living our lives with pure intentions.
It’s been a year since I lost all of my hair to alopecia and in that time, I have learned over and over again, that our beauty comes from within. When you feel confident about who you are as a person and what you stand for, that is what attracts people to you. People get caught up in appearances so that they can get recognition from others but at the end of the day, no one cares if your curls are perfectly defined or your eyebrows haven’t been waxed in a few weeks but the energy that you give off to others is what will draw them in.
Do what you must to feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, but do it for yourself. Don’t give into societal standards of what the “perfect woman” needs to be. Do not let your self-worth be validated by anyone else but who you see when you look in the mirror. Work on your inner strength as well and become someone who learns to love who they are, even with all of their flaws.
Sisterhood Is Key
Growing up, I used to be one of those girls who “only had guy friends” because the girls who I were surrounded by were catty and not anyone that I wanted to spend time with. As the years went on and mostly, after I graduated from college, I realized how vital sisterhood is to growth.
There is beauty in honest and raw friendship with other women; a friendship where you can rely on one another, build each other up and never doubt your own worth because of the other persons accomplishments. That is what true sisterhood looks like and although it can be difficult to find, it’s life changing.
In the past 5 years, my life has improved for the better because I’ve had amazing relationships with strong women. Relationships that have allowed me to push myself to new heights, to truly question my intentions and be forgiving with myself and others… even when that’s hard.
When you can find others who allow you to truly be yourself and to learn and grow each day… that is when you will start to vibrate higher.
If you don’t have those relationships in your everyday life, find a mentor or be inspired by others online. Realize that the people you surround yourself with have a meaningful impact on your life and growth. Take time to carve our meaningful relationships and connect with women that will push you to be better, each and every day.
How Do You Define Womanhood? What Are Some Things You’ve Had To Learn or Unlearn Over The Years?