Finding Solace in Audre Lorde

This past week, so many wonderful things have happened. I finally launched Las Morenas de España and it's already gotten tons of positive feedback from both friends and strangers alike (which I'll be writing a post about soon).  Not only that, but an article I wrote on Madrid was published in Travel Noire, one of the leading publications for black travel. All in all, it's been a wonderful week and I could not be happier that my work and efforts are out there in the world. 

Although life is great right now, I think it's important to be transparent in saying that not every day is easy. Some days are tough, at times for reasons you might be aware of and other times... some days are just hard and you can't quite wrap your finger around why. Sometimes you might need to find solace in something or someone outside of yourself. This past weekend, I spent a lot of time finding solace and inspiration in the words and thoughts of Audre Lorde. 


“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” — A Burst of Light: Essays


“It is never easy to demand the most from ourselves, from our lives, from our work. To encourage excellence is to go beyond the encouraged mediocrity of our society is to encourage excellence. But giving in to the fear of feeling and working to capacity is a luxury only the unintentional can afford, and the unintentional are those who do not wish to guide their own destinies.” — “Uses of the Erotic,” Sister Outsider


“I will become strong, the best, excel in everything, become the very best because I don’t dare to be anything else.” — “Eye to Eye: Black Women, Hatred, and Anger,” Sister Outsider


“For once we begin to feel deeply all the aspects of our lives, we begin to demand from ourselves and from our life-pursuits that they feel in accordance with that joy which we know ourselves to be capable of. Our erotic knowledge empowers us, becomes a lens through which we scrutinize all aspects of our existence, forcing us to evaluate those aspects honestly in terms of their relative meaning within our lives. And this is a grave responsibility, projected from within each of us, not to settle for the convenient, the shoddy, the conventionally expected, nor the merely safe.” — “Uses of the Erotic,” Sister Outsider


“You have to learn to love yourself before you can love me or accept my loving.” — “Eye to Eye: Black Women, Hatred, and Anger,” Sister Outsider


“The strongest lesson I can teach my son is the same lesson I teach my daughter: how to be who he wishes to be for himself. And the best way I can do this is to be who I am and hope that he will learn from this not how to be me, which is not possible, but how to be himself. And this means how to move to that voice from within himself, rather than to those raucous, persuasive, or threatening voices from outside, pressuring him to be what the world wants him to be.” — “Man Child: A Black Lesbian Feminist’s Response,” Sister Outsider


“In order to keep me available to myself, and able to concentrate my energies upon the challenges of those worlds through which I move, I must consider what my body means to me. I must also separate those external demands about how I look and feel to others, from what I really want for my own body, and how I feel to my selves.” — “Breast Cancer: Power vs. Prosthesis,” The Cancer Journals


“You cannot, you cannot use someone else’s fire. You can only use your own. And in order to do that, you must first be willing to believe that you have it.” — I Am Your Sister: Collected and Unpublished Writings of Audre Lorde


“When I live through pain without recognizing it, self-consciously, I rob myself of the power that can come from using that pain, the power to fuel some movement beyond it. I condemn myself to reliving that pain over and over and over whenever something close triggers it. And that is suffering, a seemingly inescapable cycle.” — “Eye to Eye: Black Women, Hatred, and Anger,” Sister Outsider


“Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever.” — “For Each of You


Where do you find solace when you need it the most?