I’ve been going in circles wanting to share what’s been happening in life over the past 5 weeks since I made the move to Javea. Many of you have been asking me to share a bit more about the everyday happenings of what it’s like living abroad and so, I’ll be doing much more of that in the upcoming weeks. But today, I want to talk a little bit about life transitions and what I’ve learned as I’ve gone through so many changes in such a short amount of time.
In the past 5 weeks, I’ve moved to a new city, moved into a new apartment, dove into a new job with an amazing team, traveled to speak twice at an international conference, went back to Murcia for a weekend, traveled another time… but to Madrid for the LMDES event… and the list goes on. All of this in 5 weeks, while also trying to find time to settle in, explore the area, keep a business running and making time for me.
Sounds like a lot right? Well, it was.
Although I woke up every morning grateful for all of the amazing opportunities that have been put into my life I still had to take into account that I had been going full speed since the move. You see, I believe that life happens in waves. There are high seasons and there are low seasons and you have to prepare accordingly. I know that these 6ish weeks would be a high season (or a sprint season) so I prepared accordingly during the summer, taking advantage of the slow moments and preparing myself. I’ve learned a lot and realized how much control we have when it comes to how we react in certain situations and what we learn. I’ve been so conscious and aware and I’m going to share some quick lessons when you’re going through life changes and/or high/fast seasons of life.
Be Patient With The Process
Whenever we have big life changes, our natural instinct is to want to accustom ourselves as quickly as possible, not giving ourselves time to process or take in all that is actually happening around us. As I settle down in this new town and look to find community, explore new places and really get a sense of what my life will be like, I’m realizing that it will take time and that is okay. When we realize that things will happen day by day, it allows for a sense of patience and understanding.
Knowing that this time was going to be filled with changes, I reminded myself that new habits, routines, and schedules will present themselves with time. I needed a buffer period to adapt and that is okay.
Protect Your Peace
Danni and I often say that “protecting your peace” is one of the most important things that we can do in this world. Being an empath, highly sensitive and someone who can be quite introverted at times (despite popular belief) I found that all of this new stimuli was really overwhelming for me. I didn’t notice it during the day to day but when I took a moment to look back, I realized what was happening and the effect it had.
So, I chose to maintain my state of calm by making sure that I scheduled time for myself and realize that I can’t change things that are out of my control. These two things helped a lot in the transition period. I also started a meditation practice (something I never thought I would do) but it works. Nothing crazy, just 3 to 10 minutes a day and it helps keep me centered more than I thought.
Value Your Values
This might be the biggest lesson I’ve learned. The other day I read a quote that said “If you don’t stick to your values when they’re being tested, they aren’t values. They’re hobbies.”
Those words really stuck out to me because so often, we have values or habits that we keep up with when everything is going well but when something comes up, we allow ourselves to let slip due to outside circumstances. With so much going on, I found myself pushing to the side all of the things that I really value; exercise, healthy eating, reading, creativity, moments of silence and I noticed the effect it had on me.
Once I was aware of my habits changing, I realized I needed to put myself in check and find solutions for more balance. Now I’m back to getting adequate rest, healthy eating habits and I’m even focusing more on creating… just because.
Things are slowing down now and I’m getting into a balanced routine that I love. Everything has been extremely fulfilling and exciting and I can’t wait to share more with all of you in the weeks ahead.
I’m curious to know.